Bepannaah 6th July 2018 Written Episode Update: Aditya reads Pooja’s diary

I have not watched the episode yet, but thanks a lot for updating.??

What is going on with Indian serials? They seemingly want to glorify affairs. This program has become unbearable. Even Silsila is about an affair… Emotional melodrama doesn’t make a cheat any less. Pooja was a dim wit, an idiot and probably the stupidest character. She did MBA but didn’t know about family planning and contraceptives? Her mother is another class act. People want to blame Aditya and point fingers at him but he wore his heart on his sleeve and it got stepped on, he didnt force Pooja to stay with him. Pooja knew how much he disliked dishonesty but there she was day time with Yash night time with Adi – that is the whole fact of the matter.

A long long time ago, my husband, our two sons and I had gone out for an ice-cream treat. It was sometime when I was always thinking of curbing unnecessary expenditure.

As a selfless person, who was too much in love with her family to deny them of any pleasure, I always chose to sacrifice my own excesses. And it didn’t even feel like a sacrifice ever, because I was a woman of very few needs/ wants/ desires…
So, when my husband asked each one of us to choose our favorite flavor of ice-cream, I responded as usual, “I won’t have any.”

The boys enjoyed one round and ordered another; my response remained the same, “I don’t want any.”

I was happy in my family’s happiness. I was happy that my not indulging in pleasure was perhaps ensuring some more goodies in the future for my dear ones. .

But my husband looked at me and said, “Please don’t do this to yourself and to us. I want a happy wife; not a sacrificial lamb. I have seen that too much sacrifice eventually leads to bitterness and victim-mentality. And I sure as hell do not want you to develop that.
You see, after a period of time, the boys and I will stop asking you for your choice, because we will assume that you don’t want it; we will take you for granted and subconsciously start treating you as a doormat… It will then hurt you.. and you will feel miserable and unimportant. You will think that we don’t care about you.
While in truth we would be behaving naturally, knowing from experience that you don’t care for yourself.. That your wishes are not important… .

So, I suggest that you always take your share and then if you really don’t like it, share it with someone who does. That will be good for all of us. You will learn how to claim your importance in your own and our eyes and we will always ask you. There will be happiness all around.”

His talk made sense to me and I couldn’t help but think about many older women who always complained, “I did so much for so and so but today they don’t even think/ care for me.”

I also remembered many instances where children would turn back and say, “But why did you do so much? Did we ask you for it? You did it because it made you happy. Who asked you to be so self-sacrificing?”

This train of thought made me take a re-look at the word ‘self-less’, equating it with self-sacrifice. That day the meaning of these words opened up for me!

Self-sacrifice ……… is not the balanced way!!!

Did Aditya ask Pooja to take his responsibility,no she did by herself and blaming Aditya.
Have you guys watch last Saturday crime patrol, that person also has lots reasons for crime, blaming others.here Pooja went for abortion without Aditya knowledge,she doesn’t want to continue with adi and blaming him.if adi has some faults why can’t she tell him.he hates his father bcoz father was having an affair,how come sakshi blaming adi for that he should have think harsh love also as a divine love,I want adi to move on but saksi is just saying Pooja is also at fault but all are just bcoz of adi, that is no right.pooja did affair bcoz she didn’t give any importance to adi and baby ,that’s why she went for abortion without telling adi,most of the time people did mistake of not telling problems to their own spouses and telling to others spouses and ending up in such relation.every people have their own reasons for their doing. v can also have our own opinion here.

If any one cheat you no need to take revenge, just move on in the life ,that’s what crime patrol teach us most of the time,why should v waste our life,I really want poosh death by accident,I don’t want hooda and wasim to murder them.its really hard to watch.

Waiting for adiya

Well…Fundamental problem with Adija marriage is both misunderstood friendship for love…We all have best friends of the opposite s*x but that doesn’t mean they are life partner material…Making someone life-partner needs a different feeling altogether..Friendship is not enough…n Adi definitely was immatured..n in this serial he is a 32 year old man…so any wife would get frustrated if her hubby behaves like a kid at this age..

Fundamental problem with Zosh marriage is social status mismatch between the two and Zoya’s innocence…zoya’s inability to understand that there is a problem in the first place coupled with her expensive tastes due to her rich background burdened Yash over a period of time…Marriages do break in real life too due to status mismatch..I have seen..zoya was selfless but could never become a good friend to Yash bcos initially she was mentally weak..n she lived n fairyland…n her naive attitude started frustrating Yash..

Though EMA is not the solution Adi n Zoya kind of attitude will frustrate any spouse over a period of time..all married folks out here will surely agree to it..

Finally this chapter of extra-marital affair come to an end. Anyways, I still don’t understand, why Pooja and Yash don’t shared and discussed their feeling and problems with Aditya and zoya. Pooja and Yash are not happy with their partners,But pooja takes money from Aditya for Yash.Yash takes money from zoya’s father. That’s OK for them. Why pooja and Yash don’t meet to any marriage councillor for saving their marriages. Why Yash cheated zoya. Many questions remained unanswered! Why shakshi don’t informed Aditya about all this. I know in today’s society many people from today’s generation facing the problem of cheated by their spouse and faced saperation,divorce, domestic violence and even get murdered. Even, My best friend get murdered,I mean shooted by her husband because her husband had an extra-marital affair. That’s the true face of extra-marital affair.

As for now, we only know the story of Pooja. Still, Yash’s story are to be revealed soon. But, I have a doubt on Poosh story. As per Pooja’s diary, she was fed up of friendship & Yash was fed up of love from Zoya. Pooja was seeking for love & Yash was seeking for friendship. Then, how both of them fall in love cheating their partners.

As per Sakshi, everything is wrong from Aditya’s side. I am not agreeing with that. Ok, I understand that Aditya’s behavior sometimes is like a childish or like Sakshi is telling that he was just in the world of college days but He loves Pooja a lot and wants to be live with her like GF & BF. Now a days, all the married couple wants to enjoy their college life after marriage. They don’t want to become a parents at sooner stage. Most of the couple are trying to become parents after 4-5 years of their marriage. But, in between, if the partner becomes pregnant, Firstly, the Husband reached just like Aditya reached but after that they will discussed & decided accordingly. Same way, Aditya reacted but when Pooja confessed that it was a joke. However, Pooja herself told to Yash that if Aditya knows then he will agree to keep the baby but it was her own decision to abort. Then how, Aditya was blamed for the abortion.

There are no couples in the world which we can say as Perfect one. There are so many indifference’s between the couple , however they will discuss & decided with each other to adjust with their limitation. In Poosh case, they had never tried to talk with their partners about their feelings or problems.

There are no problems in this world (atleast between the couples) that can not be resolved by talking with each other.