Bigg Boss 13 5th February 2020 Written Episode, Written Update on TellyUpdates.com
Day 129
The reporter asks Sid if he can control his anger around Asim? Sid says Asim starts pushing so I return it back. Asim says Sid doesn’t listen to anyone that’s why Sana becomes neutral in the tasks also. The reporter tells Sid that Salman said that Sana might be in love with you so you are going away from her? Sid says we are still the same, we sit together all the time. There is no difference in our friendship. The reporter asks Sana if she has some feeling that she can’t understand? Sana says there is nothing like that, I am comfortable with him, I don’t have a problem seeing him that way but it’s about him having feelings.
The reporter tells Arti that you take a stand against Rashami but not against Sid? Arti says I give useless reactions but Sid is articulate. I love Rashami and I don’t like her in the game.
The reporter tells Mahira that your mom asked you to stay away from Paras but you didn’t listen to her. Mahira says I don’t like boy’s touch but I don’t get that vibe from Paras, he doesn’t give negative vibes. The reporter says you called Sana filth. Mahira says she said that I am useless and have no level. Sana says it was a joke. Mahira says it was not, she has said a lot to me but we are friends.
The reporter asks Sid if he will do a show with Rashami? Rashami says we will see the story first. Sid says yes.
The reporter asks Asim that you said Salman made Paras naked, Sana said it too so Salman got you naked this weekend too? Why are you so against Paras? Asim says he went personal with me. I am not in a relationship with anyone. If someone is saying something then it’s not my problem. I fell in love and it was real. Paras says if a girl is spending money on me because she is my girlfriend then it’s making me naked?
The reporter tells Sana that you are never present for Sid he needs you, you always go against him so how are you a friend to him? A friend stands with her friend all the time. You always back-bite about him to Asim and Rashami. Rashami says she has never back-bited to me about Sid. I understand their feelings. She respects Sid a lot. Sana says if Asim is saying something about Sid then it’s his point of view. I am with Sid but he chose Arti so I was angry with him. The reporter says that Vikas talked about SidNaaz and then you became possessive about him and now you hate Paras? Sana says there is nothing like that. Paras says our attachment ended first week only. Sana says Sid supported me a lot, Paras is a fool.
The reporter asks Rashami that you hide tea to teach them a lesson but then you deny it. Rashami says I don’t want them to waste the tea.
The reporter tells Sana that you got to know about SidNaaz and then you followed your father to ignore Paras. Sana says I will listen to my father. Paras says her behavior changed when she got to know about the things from outside. Sana says I get affected when Sid sits with Mahira and Paras.
The reporter tells Arti that you are always looking at the camera when you are fighting. Arti says I become conscious. The reporter asks Arti if she thinks of Sid for a husband? Arti says I can’t pacify someone that much so not for me.
The reporter asks Mahira that you were good friends with Sana but when Paras came back, you ditched her. Mahira says she doesn’t respect friendship, I cried for her but she didn’t care.
The reporter tells Sid that you can’t control your words. Once you said to Arti to remain in her limits. Sid says I just wanted her to not say something that is wrong.
The reporter says to Asim that someone is saying that she was not in a relationship with you. Asim says who is she? I was in a relationship. Asim says I ended that relationship but we are friends, I cleared it before coming here. Some other can tweet too because of my journey. Sid laughs. Asim says I am famous so anyone can say anything about me but I am here, I am standing with Himanshi.
The reporter asks Asim that if you think that show is biased then why don’t you leave it? Asim says one perspective was shown and the other was not so I was angry about i.
Bigg Boss says now the reporters will choose a new elite club member by voting. Votes for the inmates are:
Arti: 0 votes
Rashami: 15 votes
Mahira: 1 vote
Paras: 9 votes
Sana: 12 votes
So Rashami becomes the new elite club member. Rashami thanks them. Asim gives her the jacket. Bigg Boss thanks the reporters. They leave.
9 PM
Sid comes to Sana and asks what happened? Sana says listen to me. Sid says it’s okay. Sana says I don’t b*t*h about you, Asim just said that Sid doesn’t support his friends. I support you against anyone. Sid says you can go to Asim and talk about it. You can have your point of view but you don’t talk about it to Asim? Sana says enough, they are showing me negatively. Sid says there is no need to cry. Sana says Paras is wrong about me, he said that I will go to Asim. Sid says you do talk to Asim, he is saying bad things about me. Sana says it’s his thoughts. Sid says you pushed me in the task and said the things that Asim says for me. Sana says okay I am the bad girl in this house. I am not talking to you. Sid says you don’t have your own mind? Sana says you said Paras was right about me. They make issues of small things. You don’t know me but you are saying rubbish that I am changing boys as per convenience.
9:15 PM
Rashami comes to Sana and hugs her. Sana says I don’t need love like that. Rashami wipes her tears. Sana says Paras and Mahira were saying bad things about me. Rashami says don’t think about other’s words. She hugs her and says don’t cry, your life has just started.
Asim tells Sid that I was not b*t*hing about you. Sid says I don’t want to listen to you. Asim says I was just talking to Sana about the tasks that you don’t listen to others. Mahira jokes that he has a girlfriend. Asim says no.
Rashami tells Sana that your career has just started so don’t do something stupid. Sid has to think about his life too, he is attached to you. It doesn’t matter if Paras or Mahira says anything. Sana says I won’t be able to handle all this outside. Rashami says I will help you.
10 PM
Sid comes to Sana and asks her to come outside from the washroom area. Asim is there. Sana says don’t joke. Sid says it’s okay, come with me. Sana says on one condition, you will clean the dishes tonight. Sid says we will do it together.
10:45 PM
Arti tells Rashami that you look happy being single. Paras says I am clear about my relationship status, she is taking care of me but I didn’t ask her. Rashami says you look like you are thankless. Paras says if she is doing these things then why she is telling others? Rashami says she came to send you here. Mahira says Paras should go out and talk with her.
12:45 AM
Asim looks at Sid and Sana. Asim says they look forced spending time now. Paras says Sana knows that SidNaaz is hit. Asim says my hashtag is famous too.
Day 130
8 AM
The inmates wake up to the song Kia karun oh ladies. They all dance.
9 AM
Paras is eating. Mahira says you didn’t wait for me? He gives her the fruits and says you are making me work a lot, you asked me to cut the fruits too. Mahira gets angry and says talk with respect. Paras says you always keep blabbering. Mahira says I am not going to eat now.
9 AM
Paras asks Mahira to stop being mad. Sid asks what happened? Paras says nothing.
10 AM
Sid tells Sana that you will get a lot of the guys. Sana says why? Sid says people will like you. Sana says I don’t like it when you say these things. Sid says it happened before for you as well. Sana says I don’t like it when you say rubbish. Sid says boys will rain over you.
4 PM
Paras reads the task in which the girls will have a photo shoot. They will get ready and then their photoshoot will happen. The boys will choose the most stylish girl after seeing the photos.
5 PM
All the girls start doing their makeup. Paras gives suggestions to Mahira. Arti says they have really good foundation.
5;30 PM
Rashami makes Asim click her glamorous photos. Asim suggests her poses and takes her photos.
Arti chooses Sid. Sid asks her to set her hair and takes her photos.
Mahira chooses Paras. He takes her photos.
Sana chooses Sid. He helps her in posing and takes her photos.
The boys have to choose the winner. Sid says Rashami’s photos are black. Rashami says my makeup is seen clearly. Paras says it’s about the makeup. Rashami says it’s high-speed photography. Paras says your face is not seen. Asim says it’s good photos. I feel Mahira has good photos too. Sana says it’s not Bigg Boss’ trophy. Asim takes Rashami’s name. They choose Mahira because of her clear photos. He gives her the hamper. Mahira thanks them.
7 PM
Paras shows Rashami’s photos and says her face can’t be seen. No photographer can do this.
7:45 PM
Sana asks Sid to act like Sana. Sid acts like Sana and bugs her. He says praise me like Sid. Sana praises him and says you are very good, all girls are jealous of you, you have a lot of emotions. Sid says I don’t like it when you sit with Paras and Mahira. Sana says I don’t like it when you with Asim and Rashami. They both laugh.
8:30 PM
Bigg Boss tells the inmates that you all are away from the finale for 10 days only and it’s time for the nominations. These nominations will decide who will go to the finale week. You all are nominated this week. The elite club members can’t use their immunity right now, we will tell you how you will use it. Right now all are nominated.
Sana says there will be a task between them. It’s good that they have nominated everyone.
PRECAP- The immunity task starts. Rashami says Mahira is out and Paras is out too because he came out of the dome. Paras says Bigg Boss has to intervene. Bigg Boss says Rashami is the referee so her decision is final. Paras comes out of the dome and says go to hell. Sana says this is my strategy with Rashami. Mahira says you are a friend? Sana says were never friends. Paras says then let’s have animosity. He throws powder on Sana’s face and tries to bring her out of the dome. He throws her dome away. Rashami says you can’t do that. Paras says I did it.
Update Credit to: Atiba
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What was all that Asim revealing himself in the press conference and in the house ?
It looked like funny banter with HM’s about his past relationships, but it was too much revealing.
And his conclusion on rumoured girl friend outside is what ?
Leaving apart all this stuff, was a very good atmosphere in the house as of now and in the press conference too today. Breezy.
Between whats the use of nominations now ?
Had Shukla guessed the reaction of Shehnaz early and thus gave an advice to contact him at any stage without any hesitation when she feels low ?
Paras,Rashami just ended up clearing their sides to some extent about their relationship status and some consequences which led to that status.
I personally feel that Rashami could have brought her “A” game way before. We have seen the result, she is in elite club now. She is definitely giving an outstanding performance from the past 4,5 weeks but that will only help her to reach top 3 only and surely not the title.
And the other way, Asim is going weak by himself and Shukla also losing some plot behind shehnaz issues.
My guess for finale is that,
Shehnaz is sure in top 5 but limited to 4th or 5th position only.
Mahira n Arti gets eliminated if it goes all soft without any twists.
Only Rashami is looking all sorted and relaxed now in the house without any tensions.
yes NOEL U R RIGHT..I have a strong feeling that Rashmi wil win…
The press conference had completely derailed the chances of shehnaz winning title. Its impossible as of now and the sudden growth of Rashami will give a huge impact on deciding the title winner.
The chances are completely open now for all top 3 and is mostly favouring Shukla going by the reputation and his impact on the show entire season.
And this is bigg boss, beyond the expectations !!
Yaar Atiba I loved it when you posted just at 12 am. I wait for it everyday! I hope you continue that :'(
Did anyone see that John Cena posted a picture of Asim on his Instagram? That is crazy!
Asim and Paras are right about one thing, I feel that Sid and Shehnaaz (mainly Sid) are forcing themselves to be together. Shehnaaz is still unclear to me, but I feel that Sid is tolerating her until the show. After the show, he will probably keep his limits with her. No one can say anything until the show is over.
Even though we should never go off the promo, but Paras seems extremely petty by his loss when he always cheated lol
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Finally Sid & Sana equation-
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I can say confidently that Sid has no TRUE feelings for her.
He was playing all along. He did everything that a better half expects.
He’s NOT even comfortable to hear or see his future with Sana after BB.
What a fine actor he is!
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Why he can’t accept Sana on camera at least?
1. His life a total mess. So he wants Sana to stay away & be safe.
2. His misconception & mental restriction for Sana.
What’s it?
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Mr. Shukla will face a beautiful fate like DEVDAS.
His feelings, reality & acceptance run in Book Post.
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CharacterMore Sana is the Best.
Clear thoughts… No filters…
She won’t regret much and move on.
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Exactly…DEVDAS 2 is really going to be seen very soon…starring sid as devdas..Sana is really attached to him and its clear…but I love SIDNAAZ …plzzzz somebody ask them to be together…
Yessss my baby Rashmi has finally become member of the elite club, Yessss throw both Mahira and Paras out of the game.. I’m so happy for Rashmi ???????
Though people tell that Rashmi talks behind the back but she impressed me time and again by taking a stand for her friends. Aarti has always told Rashmi to be her friend but never supported her though Rashmi did that. Sana and Rashmi are not friends but they have bonded. Rashmi knows that Sana will be on SS side forever. But Rashmi spoke for Sana as Sana was nervous today by that question of b*t*hing. Rashmi did what SS should do for Sana. SS also knows Sana can never b*t*h about him. Aarti gave sarcastic look to SS when Rashmi spoke for Sana…..that’s not friends Aarti. One thing that irritates me about Shukla is he makes sarcastic faces when anyone is talking. Being a grown up he must take care of it. May be he never paid attention to it but it is a major turn off part of one’s personality.
Reporters were bashing Asim like anything and that was not required. Someone please teach Paras and Mahira that when you are in gathering atleast then don’t show your bully nature, especially when Mahira tolded everyone ghar ki baat ghar mein rahe. It is childish. Paras saying that his gf should not be talking about what she is doing for him would have been valid if he didn’t potray her as a forced gf. Paras did that in first week itself.
I felt bad for Sana as SS also talks to people whom she does not like but reporters just questioned her. SS didn’t favor her from secret room or took her side when someone was against her. So why everyone expects that from Sana. He did support Mahira and Paras. Paras though became weak in game because of taking Mahira’s side but atleast he takes her side and being wiser has helped Mahira time and again.
If talking about friendship- Paras Mahira have proved it, atleast in the house. That is only good thing about this couple and yes Paras no doubt was good gamer but lost his plot due to show format this time.
Other people who knew what friendship meant were Rashmi to Asim- Paras (till he kept it)- Aarti-Vishal-Devo. Sana to SS. Devo to Rashmi
I agree with you. Asim was definitely attacked, both Asim and Shehnaaz. I felt bad. Shehnaaz definitely did this to herself, but she was bashed in such a horrible way. My mom likes Sid, and even she said that it seems like the reporters were probably paid off to say certain things.
But I am sure that only these 2 will have a future after this show.
@pari and @hope
I agree about the attacks and bias.
However, I do not feel sorry for even a single one of these contestants.
Each one of them have made thousands of rupees just while sitting there. The fact that they are on the show means it has been a good day for them.
These people are of the sort where getting insulted and humiliated on National TV is no big deal. In fact they invite it to get more screen time.
As long as they get their money, any publicity is good publicity. It’s the public and the viewers who are bothered
I’m exhausted of Sid-
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He was playing all along.
He played the victim card for romance-loving viewers.
He doesn’t wanna lose Sana for GAME’s sake only.
Otherwise, Asim & Vishal could have used Sana Impact. They’re good friends too.
Sid kept her reserved.
He did everything that a better half expects.
Yet he’s NOT even comfortable to hear or see his future with Sana after BB, not even doing for cameras!
What a fine actor he is!
Experience matters truly…
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He’ll regret the most.
Is it casual in Mumbai?
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@souraytbratha im exhausted by ur comments!
Sana is fake and no backbone atleast mahira tried to be friends with her sana ditched mahira soon as sid came sana ditched paras soon as paras showed intrest to mahira sana ditched sid for asim rashmi and many more sana is no omes just for her self selfish mahira is ten timea better than sana atleast she values her friendahips and trys to maintain it unlie sana cz of jealousy she went against paras n mahira
@romeo,Thank you for this reply… I literally felt the same… SG fans are so blind to her faults that anyone would think the sun rises for them from her nether regions.
Be a fan of your favourite contestant but accept that not everyone is as truthful as they portray.
SG is trying to project the image of a cute virginal flirty girl, when not a single one of these 4 attributes apply to her. But some men in India are so turned on and attracted by it that it becomes exhausting for the others.
It’s amazing how people are attracted to such cheap attention seeking displays when everyone has a smart phone and easy access to porn.
SS was never interested… I’m sure he’s seen enough starstruck gold digger wannabes.
That woman sticks to any Y-chromosome she sees. There are videos of her kissing Ass-im also in one of the fights. In a span of 4 months what is her pseudo-“attachment” count in a locked up house now? 4? 5? Or am I missing some numbers?
No woman in Mumbai behaves this way. No one is that desperate.
I believe SG is from Punjab… Is it so casual in Punjab?
You have too much hatred my friend. May be you have never met with anyone so pure hearted and true. But yes its casual for punjabis to be that open, pure hearted, non-hateful, non aggressive, non selfish, easily available for someone in need etc etc. its just she is expressing it in open. it looks like kissing is big deal for women in Mumbai and for you ?? SG has been saying openly she loves SS so what?? she doesnt understand her feeling yet so what?? but loving someone and expressing it so openly is not crime.some people are just that way.I am sure women in mumbai do all this but behind locked doors. it all depends on the channel how they potray it as its a show after all. you dont know SG perosnally and you might not know any women form punjab so stop judging WOMEN FROM PUNJAB just on basis of what channel has been trying to portray. The world is harsh and SG needs to learn a lot yet to survive it.
@ REET
that is exactly what I am saying…..Punjabis are a really amazing people…And here is one woman who is spoiling the entire image of the state
And what is with these SG supporters? why do they get personal ? chill maar yaar
I’m very sorry for Sana
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Her brother reminded me of her TRUE SELF when she entered BB.
She’s now completely exploited emotionally.
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A dark outcome- when you act to please yourself, not public expectations.
Nomination Task Feb 6
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Where the Hell is Sid NOW?
Don’t tell me it’s a game… At least he could say Paras- “You’re playing rough bro!”
Viewers will ONLY expect Sana to support Sid, always… not necessarily the other way round… WHY?
If she’s not supporting him- IS SID YOUR GAME? WHAT SORT OF FRIENDSHIP IS THIS?…
If she’s supporting- WHERE IS YOUR SELF-RESPECT?
What she should do?
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Your Comment: thank you very much Atiba di
Let’s not too much care about this stuff… It’s just an entertaining show , not a part of our life. After all there are more important thing to discuss about rather than fighting for people who even will not care for our lives .
To Mahira everyone is badtameez. She is herself too rude, loud and screams like a hyena.
Laughs unnecessarily and even when Salman told her not to. During press conference, only she and Paras interrupted Asim and poked fun at him laughing. Asim was cordial and didn’t tell her off. Why cant she keep her mouth shut! And when she is told off..she screams and creates a mudha and then blames the other person for creating it!!
She thinks she is being cute wotever. Even the reporter hinted at her to “shut up” when there was a question for Paras.
Either she will scream “one second” when fighting or “badtameez” her favourite lines but for once Paras was right..she needs a mirror to see her own bad behaviour before accusing others.
Hats off to Rashmi for her splendid composure during the press-conference. She was confident, gave spontaneous answers and wasn’t sarcastic or rude. She showed her maturity and wasn’t evasive unlike SS who gave short and “humorous” answers.
Arti probably knows she is still around due to her family connections and hence, “under-dog” is a nice way to put it
Sana is now nervous cos has found out what public thinks of her. She tries to act cute and innocent with Sid but gives experience and matured advices to others especially Rashmi
Sid is also 50-50..wondering whether SIDNAAZ was a good idea when he isn’t at all interested in Sana
Paras and Mahira are props to make up the number. They are appearing to be on shaky ground and are getting frustrated with each other. Probably cos they know they are not going to win.
Asim is in “love” zone and totally in denial about Himanshi messing up his game plan
Rashmi has moved forward and has proven that despite what others thought of her, she is strong and can speak up for herself
and so..we shall soon find out the winner but BB has probably already “selected” one!
SKA,
a detailed and correct analysis…great
i can’t wait for this nautanki to get over, it’s been stretched for far too long.
nowadays the episodes are really boring , and i hope they stick to the original time period for the next season
Me too @SPJ!
thanks and hope the timing for next season works out for you 🙂
v true@SKA ,MARK my words Rashmi will be the winner
Totally agree @ Sushmita. Im guessing the same.
Cheers!
@SKA, superb analysis! Totally unbiased and sensible, as always:)
thanks Devika, cheers!
Cannot stand Paras, Mahaira and Sid they are the biggest bully in the house why be mad at everyone backstabbing and talking it a game reality tv give me a break i love Rashamie and Sana they are not fake just playing the game. So Mr. Shulka ,Paras,and Ms. Mahaira grow up its never about you all never backstabbing.
I’m happy for Rashmi. She looks like a free bird after breaking up with Arhaan. I think she never really loved him, but just continued the relation with him out of being indepted towards him. But now she knows his reality and has come to terms with it.
The reporters were definitely biased. They were literally bashing both Asim and Sana left and right. Just because they are commoners, no one gives them the right to act like this. Asim was called out for his aggression which should have been done, but what about Sid’s aggression & violence? Why did no one talk about that?
Paras and Mahira know that their game is done & over. And thats why they are getting frustrated even with each other. And even Sid is not giving much importance to them since Shahbaaz warned him about them. I think Paras is officially out of top 5.
Rashmi has improved herself tremendously. Loved the way she confidently answered all questions. Asim was bashed by the media, but i felt he became way too defensive while answering. He really doesnt know how to answer well. He should have refrained from calling himself “popular”. It gave him a sense of pompousness, when actually he is not.
Sid looks bored and fed up of all this. He’s like when will this crap get over and when will BB hand over the trophy to me?
Agree to with you @ Nia.
Asim seemed lost and distracted. He didn’t seem prepared. Still living in Himanshi’s bubble :-))
Sid looked restless and a little worked up..pisst even when Rashmi did her magic…confidently handled the press. He doesn’t seem to be happy to answer questions but then again that is his personality..likes to do the questioning and feels he is not answerable to anyone..his way or NO WAY!
sid is useless guy. sana is behaving like his wife. sid is not accepting her as partner and he is enjoying with her. bb show only their irritating clips . in full episodes only those two will be posed . creator dont have mind
I’m happy for Rashmi. She looks like a free bird after breaking up with Arhaan. I think she never really loved him, but just continued the relation with him out of being indepted towards him. But now she knows his reality and has come to terms with it.
The reporters were definitely biased. They were literally bashing both Asim and Sana left and right. Just because they are commoners, no one gives them the right to act like this. Asim was called out for his aggression which should have been done, but what about Sid’s aggression & violence? Why did no one talk about that?
Paras and Mahira know that their game is done & over. And thats why they are getting frustrated even with each other. And even Sid is not giving much importance to them since Shahbaaz warned him about them. I think Paras is officially out of top 5.
Rashmi has improved herself tremendously. Loved the way she confidently answered all questions. Asim was bashed by the media, but i felt he became way too defensive while answering. He really doesnt know how to answer well. He should have refrained from calling himself “popular”. It gave him a sense of pompousness, when actually he is not.
Sid looks bored and fed up of all this. He’s like when will this crap get over and when will BB hand over the trophy to me!
Sidharth should understand this thing that shehnaaz doesn’t know hindi well as well english too so it is very difficult to express her feelings but she always listen to sidharth n deeply in love with him. Sidharth should not bother about age it is just number don’t let her go from your life. If he tells her in clear words she will do that what he wants n never disappoint him because she has changed herself a lot for sidharth only he can proper guide her n take care of her for whole life. Sidharth always has trust issue problem but shehnaaz showing trust even he is living in bb house with ex girlfriend then why sidharth can’t trust her. In his life he gonna trust somebody then why not shehnaaz because she is blunt but it doesn’t mean we gonna judge her loyalty. Nobody is perfect in their life. If he tells her that he wants stability then she will understand n start dating each other n then get marry but don’t hurt each other. Don’t let other words affect on your relationship have trust on your true bond.
Rashami was on point yesterday, answered all the questions confidently n without twisting. Paras n mahira were rude n bullying as usual. Asim seemed less confident n lost in thoughts ( probably himanshi). The questions asked to sana were harsh but true these allegations have been put on her out in the social media n she had a chance to clarify them n put forward her pov but as usual she chose to escape the situation by saying “mai aisi hi hu”. Arti also seemed to be little nervous. Sid was bored n pissed off by the questions but tried to answer them sarcastically.
Rashami deserved to win the elite club membership. Seeing the promo I thought that sana was upset because of Salman’s comment on the wkw. But she was blaming Sid for live in comment but he didn’t said that. Actually I believe that she was disturbed due to the questions n as she lost the membership. The way that rashami consoled her was commendable n a big proof that she doesn’t instigate her against Sid. Can’t stand mahira, she has to poke her nose in every discussion. She was unnecessarily interrupting paras when he was talking to rashami. Rashami gave fabulous poses for the photo shoot but unfortunately the pics were dark. Glad to see rashami n asim bonding as I thought that they will be disturbed after himanshi exit.
Those who deserve to win: Reshmi, sidart, Paras
OMG!!!!
Who is Rashami Desai, “hey kaun yeh Rashami” “kaun hai Rashami”
Was the words of Mahira Sharma….
Haha my question now is Who is Mahira Sharma? Hey kaun yeh Mahira, kaun hai yeh Mahira…
Seriously just 1 vote. Itna insult and shame. OMG….
So happy Rashami won.
I am happy anyone Rashami and Sid winning like that cool
However I feel really bad for Arti she deserve getting some amount of vote…
But Mahira I am laughing because I feel bad for her