Anupama 7th October 2021 Written Episode Update: Anupama’s Apt Reply To Vanraj

Vanraj is an egotistical person, with a toxic mindset, and that is why he is unable to live his life or let anyone else live their own life. Vanraj’s mother (Ba) always treated Vanraj like he is god. When Anupama and Vanraj got married, Ba made Vanraj feel like Anupama is not his status so as the years progressed, Vanraj became more and more aggressive and rude towards Anupama. Basically Vanraj set up rules for Anupama, and forced Anupama into a corner, and because Babuji only wanted peace he (Babuji) never spoke up. Then because Anupama was a loyal wife and daughter-in-law so Anupama never fought back, and never really expressed her pain. Adding on Ba would taunt Anupama regardless of what Anupama, or even if it was never even Anupama’s fault, Ba and Vanraj would have ganged up on Anupama. Even Paritosh and Pakhi started to gang up on Anupama making her feel very lonely and feel like she really does not have a voice or a leg to stand on. Vanraj saw Anupama’s loyalty, trust, hard work and saw the praise that Anupama would make to Vanraj. Vanraj felt powerful and invisible to anyone’s criticism, and if someone were to say something that was accurate then he would blair up. Vanraj had a good support system, like Ba would care for Vanraj making sure that Vanraj is well taken care of, Paritosh and Pakhi were taken after Vanraj. Then there was Anupama who, no matter what happened, would protect Vanraj against everyone. Anupama would never let the kids say anything bad about their father even though Vanraj would be in the wrong, making Vanraj even stronger, not only that but Vanraj would blame Anupama for all of the issues making it easier for Anupama to believe that she is always in the wrong and when the kids blamed her it seemed okay to not only her but also the kids. But once the affair came out not only to Anupama but the entire family, that strong base that Vanraj had with everyone got crushed and broken. Yes Pakhia and Paritosh ran back to Vanraj but now Pakhi and Paritosh do turn on their father the moment something does not go their way. It was something that I noticed, yes Pakhi was rude to her mother twice after the affair came out and when the divorce happened but at the same time Pakhi also got mad at Vanraj and did not stop Anupama and Anuj to come close instead was fine with it. With Paritosh, he now leans more towards his mother-in-law (Rakhi) Dave and not really his mother or father. That is why Paritosh screamed, and yelled at the entire family and left, he left before but was depressed and came right back home. This also shows character development but in a negative way for Paritosh. Instead of being a good son, he ran and chased after Rakhi Dave, and left his family for a lifestyle that he never earned. Vanraj cheating on Anupama broke that perfect man image, a man that was able to take care of his family with his own paycheck, that was able to make the rules and having your wife and mother support you. Where in his neighbourhood he was this well off man, his image was this ideal perfect man that everyone wanted. But once the affair came out it destroyed that image and it destroyed all of the relationships he had. Vanraj, who was super strong and seemed unstoppable had to stop. This is proven because at the maha shivratri he quotes himself “Vanraj is Back”, this is not because he is back in the house but instead back personality and his confidence back. Though he was never actually able to recover and be back to that man he was before because he has been destroyed, he has no control over the woman (Anupama) who he deemed weak, fragile, insecure and only is good at chores. Anupama is moving ahead in life while Vanraj who still has a family, a wife is falling back in life and is unable to get out of that. Vanraj who had everyone’s love and attention, who had everyone support him, was able to control everyone, and was able to change things in a second lost all of that power. The woman who he called weak, and worthless is NOW working with a big business man, and was able to get a good paying job. While the woman Vanraj thought was educated and beautiful is NOW a nagging person that just does not understand him (Vanraj). Vanraj still believes that he is in the right because he has Ba, Kavya and Paritosh support him, but mainly its Ba telling Vanraj that he needs to put a stop to this Anuj and Anupama relationship allowing Vanraj to think that whatever he is doing is correct and that Anupama should do whatever Ba and him say. Kavya may be likeable in the current storyline but right now she is kind of correct in the sense that Vanraj is ruining everything for them, and are already having troubles living and that this will make it worse. Vanraj is not used to Anupama fighting back, because usually Anupama is the one that stays quiet and actually listens to Vanraj’s every word. But now that Anupama does not care about him or does not actually follow Vanraj’s orders it is pissing him off. Vanraj is losing power over the woman that he was able to mentally abuse, manipulate, emotional blackmail, and was able to turn into a free maid. Vanraj is now going to learn how Anupama felt when he (Vanraj) had reigned over Anupama. Ba is someone that never actually loved Anupama, she (Ba) loved Anupama when she was Vanraj’s wife, because Anupama continued to listen to Ba and continued to serve the Shah family. This is noted because when the whole wedding thing was happening Babuji already accepted Anupama as his daughter. While for Ba, she only cared for Anupama when she (Anupama) was doing something for Ba or her family. Whenever there is a fight or something Ba is so quick to blame Anupama or is so quick to tell her that she is not part of this family. Like how at the resort after Ba said that Anupama will forever be a part of the family, but at Sanan engagement tells Anupama that she is not part of the family and has no right to speak in family matters. Adding on when Anuj came into the picture and Anupama accepted the deal she threw Anupama to the side and said that kavya is her Bahu. Ba calls Anupama her daughter when it is convenient to her, and when it fits Ba’s needs. The moment it becomes about Anupama and not about her baby boy (Vanraj) she gets mad and decides that Anupama is not her daughter anymore. Ba was so quick to forgive Vanraj for cheating and then taunted Anupama at every moment when she (Anupama) did not accept her (Ba) Vanraj. Or whenever something bad happens to Vanraj it is somehow Anupama’s fault and Anupama needs to fix it. Or when Vanraj kicks out Anupama or threatens to do it, Ba stands there just watching everything, but the moment Anupama was going to throw out Vanraj, Ba was screaming to not do it, asking Babuji to stop Anupama. Throughout this entire show Ba has always picked Vanraj, yes when the affair came out she (Ba) did pick Anupama’s side but as Devika said that Vanraj did something so bad that it was not excusable that she (Ba) had to side with Anupama. Adding on the very next day she wanted everything to go back to normal where Anupama forgives Vanraj and they will live happily ever after. But Ba forgets how much trauma this had put on Anupma, that she (Anupama) literally had a panic attack and was freaking out. Ba keeps forgetting that Anupama went through a horrible mental breakdown, yet still Ba kept pushing Vanraj and Anupama together even when Vanraj would run to Kavya every single time. Ba thinks that because of one relationship all of the other relationships are hurting but not realizing that her (Ba) son is the problem. Due to Vanraj’s ego, his toxic personality, and because of his fragile male ego he is unable to comprehend Anupama’s other relationships and success. Ba did not even like Devika, Ba didn’t even like when Anupama started to learn how to drive, Ba did not like Anupama working. Ba constantly puts restraints on Anupama and it is annoying because these restraints should be put on Vanraj and not Anupama. But Ba is Ba and she will never change until Anupama actually leaves the house and Ba has to struggle for once.
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I feel like Anupama is not maahan but she is more. I do not know how to say this but Anupama is just a quiet person, a person that just goes with the flow type of person. Even if she is hurt by that person she will forgive them and move on with their life because that is what she has been doing for years with Vanraj and the Shah family. This story is about Anupama’s growth but I feel like because the writers want to drag this show for years they made her growth really gradual. But I hope with Anuj it picks up just a bit faster. But you can see the old Anupama and the new Anupama merge and finally become who she really is. Yes Anupama cries a lot, and it can get annoying but that is just her character. From the beginning Anupama only cried because she always felt hopeless and always felt like there was no escape for her no matter what she said or what she did. Who was going to listen to her, cause no one really respected her to even care if she was doing okay or if she was treated properly. The only people that was really able to get at Vanraj was Devika, who really saw Vanraj for who he really was and saw the relationship between Kavya and Vanraj. But other than that Anupama really had nowhere to run because she (Anupama) really cared for Vanraj and always wanted to be there for him. Not only that but Anupama trusted Vanraj with her eyes closed, treating and believing that Vanraj was like a god. Any time someone said something bad about her family she would say that her family loves her very much yet they did not speak up when Vanraj threw Anupama out of the house. Instead of going to her mothers, or going anywhere she just stood there crying, because at that time she was stuck there and was stuck in this area where she was not able to break out. Though once Anupama finds out about the affair she basically starts to break out of that shell, where Anupama does not share the bedroom with Vanraj anymore and just shifts in with Pakhi. Where Anupama went to Paritosh for answers and directly telling him why would you do this to me, do I not have a right to my life. Where she stops caring for Vanraj, stopped serving Vanraj food, or did not even pack his lunch. Anupama stopped doing those small tasks that were her normal and something that Vanraj relied on and expected Anupama to do as a wife. Now that Anupama knew that he isn’t loyal or a person that she should have treated like god, and realized that she should have never treated anyone like god. This was where baby steps were being taken. When Vanraj told Ba to ask Anupama to forgive Vanraj and Anupama declined that and let Vanraj leave was also a very big step for her. After the whole Paritosh wedding, and the accident Anupama learned the type of person that Vanraj is as well as Babuji realizing who his son was. When the accident happened and Ba thought that Anupama and Vanraj were going to get close, Anupama had already mentally let go of Vanraj so she (Anupama) was never going to accept Vanraj back into their life, Anupama was only doing stuff for Vanraj out of kindness. Ba and Vanraj thought that Anupama would accept him back but Babuji knew that this was never going to happen. When Anupama brought up the divorce and Pakhi, Paritosh, and Ba started to yell at Anupama and why she is taking this step, I feel like at that point since Anupama realized who Vanraj really was she was ready for this next step. Yes she did cry and break down but at a certain point, she still kept her word and kept her foot down. Anupama may have never left that house the moment she found out about the affair but she had her small protest to separate herself from Vanraj. Adding on, Anupama also found her voice and started to just get stronger and stronger. Even though Anupama support system started to grow throughout the entire story, Anupama was still struggling to find her foot, because Raki Dave, Kavya, Vanraj, Ba and Paritosh would always try and stop her progress so it was hard for her to move on in life and became harder to actually work things out. But after meeting Anuj she got that security net that she needed. Before meeting Anuj, Anupama only had her dance academy that had Vanraj’s cafe, adding on that she still was living with Babuji and the fam, yes she has ownership to the house but in that household she would be outnumbered and adding on Vanraj would not allow certain things to happen because Ba would 100% support it. I think this new step of becoming a business partner with Anupama allowed Anupama to taste freedom, and be able to actually live freely for once. But due to Vanraj’s lack of understanding and his ego burning in flames, so then basically Anupama’s freedom was gone and shattered by Vanraj once again. But this time Anupma fought back. Slowly slowly Anupama started to gain confidence and will start to fight back, Anupama now has a soft pad to land on if she falls. I believe that talking to Anuj who has helped her selflessly, who helped Anupama complete and fulfill her dreams telling her that they (Vanraj) will always do this until you actually leave and stop this will forever continue. This being Anupama’s second biggest wakeup call, the first one being the affair. Anupama needed this wakeup call but not from one of the family members, because they will always try to pull her down one way or another, so Anuj telling her is going to shock her and will actually make her realize that she is not bad luck, its Vanraj who constantly destroy her happiness and her hard work because he does not want her (Anupama) to be more successful than Vanraj. I believe this won’t just be a turning point but also a step in the right direction and away from the Shah family. Adding on I read online and saw that Anupama would be moving out of the Shah house and would be moving in with Devika and Samar will go with Anupama. I do not know if they will show it this week or next week, but I hope this does come true. Basically it will show the struggles of a woman that is not part of a family, and the next steps in her career. Adding on it will also show how broken this family is, without Anupama repairing everyone’s relationship especially relationships with Varnaj. Vanraj’s ego is too big to actually have a proper relationship with the people around him, instead he ruins them and then gets Anupama to fix them. So this will show two sides and how Vanraj will spiral down, and will continue to fail until he actually checks himself. I feel like next week will be Anupama leaving the house and then after that there will be drama where Anuj tells Anupama that he has an apartment or Devika will tell Anupama to move in with her. I think either Devika will tell Anupama in front of everyone in person, or will tell Anupama privately. After that Babuji will tell Anupama that now she needs to leave and build her own life away from here, the same with Samar and Kinjal will say. While Ba will object to this with Kavya and Vanraj who want to cage up Anupama. But after a week of dragging she will actually leave the house, then it will build to the next drama. I just hope by next week they discuss Anupama actually living the house and that this time she actually goes.

Buzz off man. What do you mean by anyone will say the same thing!!the makers are normalizing abusive behaviour. Even after baa tortured anupamaa so much.Anu still treats her like goddess. She feels responsible towards baa bapuji. There are so many members to take care of them. Why should she take care of them?? She should take her of her real mother who kept her in womb for nine months. There is literally no one to support her. Her father also died at an early age. If she is so mahaan and selfless. Why can’t she go back to her maayka. Who needs her more than her ex sasural.Physically and financially lol.Speaking if her children pakhi is not 6 month old baby. She is grown ass girl. Clearly she knows how her father If she really loves her mom she should let her go. I sometimes feel bapuji is emotionally manipulating anupamaa for his own good. He is giving all the love and support so she can be compelled to stay with them and do all chores! I am so done with manipulative series

So much bhashanbaji of Anupama. Rather than doing all this she should have given a tight slap to Vanraj, that would have been sufficient. But the writers can’t stop portraying Anupama as Mahanta ki devi. Even after so much drama she is still staying in that house. Any sane person would have left.

I dont understand how come Baa is worried for family fame that Anu falls for a so called stranger Anuj but on the same time allows Ex wife to continue staying in the same house and the earlier Kavya’s friendship with Vanraj…utterly dismay and so very partial. DOes Vanraj have to say anything like this
He says when he was doing the same thing he was in limits, really, he was married and thus he was cheating on his wife, whereas Anupama (and she should high time realise this) is a free woman now, why is she not answering the way she should then unnecessary gyaan baazi, which certainly seems defensive.

Waiting to see Bapuji thinking Anu needs a companion who would love and respect her . Vanraj needs to dig a hole an bury himself . I think Anu will be made to marry Anuj because Bapuji won’t be able to bear Vanraj staining her name with his filth . On Bapuji saying Anuj will be perfect .

Hmmm so if she marries Anuj, I guess he will be moving into the Shah house too? Lol
Yes Anu needs to learn a huge lesson in letting go! Maybe it’s just fear…she will eventually move out…all in good time! I hope!

Really disappointed with Anupama,after getting humiliated publically she is yet to remain with her family.The way she is tolerating everything is not normal.She is living under the same roof with her ex husband for her kids but what’s the use of that her children will learn how to compromise being a woman and what’s the use of divorce even she has to remain in the same house,divorce is granted when incompatibility arises & how can a current & ex wife live in the same house.Even if she leaves the house her kids would understand one day that self respect can’t be replaced with anything when it is falsely accused regularly. Extramarital affair was ok but Anuj being a true lover is bad.He said right that distance was okay in love but in hate it drives people crazy.Vanraj’s ego had lead him to depend on his wife’s salary he should at least respect that but Anuj’s care for Anupama is fulfilling ones dream without expecting nothing in return.At this point she should had left with her head held high as Vanraj is no one in her life now instead an immature egoistic man.