Jaana Na Dil Se Door 17th May 2017 Written Episode Update

ON VIVIDHA’s CHARACTER BEING REALISTIC:

Realistic: My definition would be, staying true and genuine to yourself, being sensible, faithful. Acting naturally and emoting to the circumstances. Striving for your happiness.

For me marriage without love is just a SOCIAL CONTRACT between two individuals. According to the contract, Men promises to give protection and security to women through out his life and women promises to continue his lineage by giving him children and upbringing them and looking after his and his children’s needs.

For me marriage between two people who genuinely love each other is, just a formality which gives legal status to their relationship and nothing more than that.

On these above definitions/ideologies of mine I’ll put up my case on Vividha being realistic. I’ll only name a few cases which are important and debatable because most of us here are aware of the whole story.

Vividha is realistic because
She is not perfect and she has every possible human emotion. She’s good, bad, foolish, clever, dumb, impulsive, innocent, bold, fearless, fearful, sensitive, short tempered, long sighted, rational, irrational and every thing. Situations and thrust for happiness determined made her emote all these characteristics. She was always half complete.
Right from blindly trusting his father to declaring her father dead and doing his last rites she always acted on the situation that she has faced. The only thing that mattered for her till her forced marriage was to be in her comfort zone with her family and Atharv and didn’t want to loose anyone and wanted to stay happily with everyone which is the situation where every human wants to be in.
She was as realistic as any individual in not recognising her inner strengths and required somebody to boost her and make her realise her potential most of the times.
Even after her marriage she never heeded into a forced marriage even though Ravish was good hearted. She stayed true to her love even after knowing Atharv’s mental condition because Atharv is her life and he’s her happiness.
She even wanted to be a widow of Atharv and was ready to break her marriage because for her it was only a deal with her father to save Atharv. She always felt guilty, for what she has done to Ravish.

THE MOST DEBATABLE PART, SECOND TIME MARRIAGE WITH RAVISH BEFORE LEAP.

She did marry Ravish for the second time because she was pushed into thinking that Atharv cheated her, by Atharv himself who was forcing her to marry Ravish and convincing her that she will love Ravish if not now, in future as he’s good.(This, most here feel debatable but this is very straight forward for me. Vividha is not ideal or perfect to be/think/act right always. She behaved naturally like most of us would be at that moment because of the things that she witnessed and gone through before that particular incident. She was very impulsive, in the heat of the moment and that’s natural for anyone to take hasty decisions at that moment of madness and Atharv was the one who was responsible for her decision and who compelled her to take that decision irrespective of he himself getting cheated by the doctors report).
When she knew she was carrying Atharv’s child in her, she didn’t make any relationship with Ravish. She still had hope that Atharv will come some day. She always regretted and questioned herself about her decision to marry Ravish since she was impulsive at that moment and any individual would think at certain point about their hasty decisions and repent on them.
When she knew Atharv was separated from her forcibly. She came out of her understanding marriage to be with Atharv. Yes, she did take some time but it’s quite natural to take sometime for yourself to get to the terms with life.
She was genuine in loving Madhav. When she knew that she had a daughter and Madhav was not her child, her love for Madhav never decreased but her zeal to find her daughter was very realistic. She was restless till she found her daughter which any mother would have felt.
When she’s feeling that Kangana is taking away Madhav from her she is feeling insecure of loosing her child and she’s being too protective of Madhav and wants Kangana to stay away from Madhav even though she is his Mother. Like any one in her place would do.

IDEAL for me would be perfect, flawles, unreal and not practical.

Had Vividha been ideal like most of the female leads(FL’s) on TV. She would never have loved Atharv against her parents wishes. She would have never thought about Atharv after marrying Ravish, Atharv could have been a closed chapter in her life. She would never have left Ravish and stayed true to the marriage. She would have comfortably accepted the abused marriage. She would have accepted all the things life has thrown at her without questioning anyone. She would never go against the societal norms which are sacrosanct for ideal FL’s. She would have never thought of being widow of Atharv.

Vividha is not at all a typical FL. She’s revolutionary and her character has always evolved from her most difficult and nightmare situations. She is what I really admire and want every girl to be. No fear of society and no fear of being true to oneself, never thinking about the consequences of speaking the truth.
Never being afraid of accepting your mistakes in the fear of what difficulties it may throw up. Never loose hope on love and your loved ones. She’s not at all perfect, her character has many flaws and negatives and so is our character. Her character is neither white nor black but, with maximum shades of grey. That’s what makes her one among us. She’s even selfish at times but she doesn’t pretend to be good, she accepts whatever she’s. She’s very genuine and realistic in the liberal and non conservative and an evolved world that I always aspired to live in.
99% of people may disagree with me but I stand by my case, I’m happy with my way of looking at things.